communication is the key

I sense a breakup on the horizon. I fear I don't know how to communicate to my 25yr old man child, this is mostly due to my irish catholic upbringing where conflict didn't exist (or at least wasn't spoken about) and now i do not have the communication tools to bring issues up or how to gracefully and diplomatically discuss them. My dad, sister and I are very blunt and we don't knwo how to couch things in a way that are like a beautifully decorated package with a bright red bow. More to come on that... watched the golden globes last night, thought steve carell's speech was hilar! didn't really like anything else. why does debra messing annoy me so, she's done nothing to me!!!